Category Archives: Marriage

Ep. 062 – Who cares about Cassandra Cushman??

September 30, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, astrology, astronomy, black magic, brooklyn, cauldrons, Consent, constellations, couples, coven, crystals, dating, death, intuition, leo, libra, Love, Marriage, mental health, mysticism, new york city, pisces, podcast, psychic, recovery, Relationships, Sex, spells, stars, witch, witches, zodiacPatrick Holbert

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Cassandra Cushman is an actor. She’s a writer. A psychic, a witch, a healer. She’s so many things beyond this realm we can’t fit it all in this little paragraph. Take a listen as these three spirits connect on a multitude of levels and maybe life times! Whoa, man… One thing is for sure, Cassandra speaks Ross and Patrick’s language (and Peggy’s language too for that matter). She’s a highly attuned witch who is incredibly well versed in astrology with an MFA in acting. The Who Cares pod loves this lady so much that Ross and Patrick invited her to be a recurring part of the program. Don’t you want some astrological check-ins from the freaky witch herself? We knew it! (We read minds now.)

Ep. 061 – Who cares about weddings, reunions, and feelings??

September 23, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drugs, Fashion, Gender, homosexuality, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, polyamory, wellness, yogaPatrick Holbert

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Ross, Patrick, and Peggy went upstate for a family wedding and Patrick’s 20 year high school reunion. Everyone came away from the weekend feeling emotionally hungover from the bittersweet highs and the stress-induced lows. Ross and Patrick balanced having a good time with their respective brands of generalized anxiety while Peggy exhausted herself from love, attention, and gnawing through her crate cover. What they thought would be a fun recap of the weekend turned into a much deeper conversation about love, partnership, and showing up for each other. Don’t you want to hear Ross and Patrick process their feelings more? We knew it!

Ep. 060 – Who cares about Juno Tempest??

September 16, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, UncategorizedPatrick Holbert

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This week we care about Juno Tempest, a comedian and writer in Brooklyn. Join us for a titillating convo about astrology, sex work, trans issues, and young love in NYC. You can hear more from Juno on her weekly show “Sad Trainee Poetry Hour” on Radio Free Brooklyn every Sunday at 4pm. She’s also the host of the Genre Reassignment comedy show at Branded Saloon in Prospect Heights.

Ep. 059 – Who cares about The Great Outdoors??

September 9, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, camping, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, ethical non-monogamy, Fashion, Gender, Love, Marriage, mental health, millenials, new york city, podcast, polyamory, relationship goals, RelationshipsPatrick Holbert

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Did you miss Ross and Patrick last week? They felt terrible that they didn’t record an episode for you. (Just tell them you missed them. They’re very sensitive and crave validation). Have no fear, they’re back and they recorded while driving upstate because vehicular multitasking is worth it for their fans. It’s you all who keep this empire running. The fans and Jesus. Mostly Jesus actually (Is anyone else watching ‘The Family’ on Netflix??). Anyway on this episode, R and P talk camping, 12 step programs, cults, and up tight neighbors. Cool, right?

Ep. 058 – Who cares about Billy Procida??

August 26, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, UncategorizedAlcoholism, BDSM, brooklyn, Consent, couples, dating, domination, Drugs, Gender, homosexuality, Love, Marriage, mental health, nyc, podcast, polyamory, Rape Culture, Religion, Sex, sex positive, sex positivity, Sexual misconduct, standup, standup comedy, therapy, trans, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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Billy Procida, the “Manwhore” himself, is in the Who Cares podcast studio! He talks to Ross and Patrick about standup, podcasting, sex work, and turning his sex positive slut lifestyle into a career. Billy claims to be extremely problematic but Ross only found minor problems here and there. Overall, this threesome had a lovely in depth conversation about relationships, sex, and societal closed mindedness. The trio also decided they’re doing the lord’s work and that the world needs more whores out in the open, especially in this political climate. So tie yourself up, grab your vibrator and have a listen to Billy Procida!

Check out Billy’s show, “The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex-Positive Quest” here!

Ep. 057 – Who cares about Chuck Thornton??

August 19, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, UncategorizedPatrick Holbert

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When Ross first met Patrick, he was a reality TV producer who used a blackberry constantly and hair product never. (Ross’ subsequent fashion and cultural influence on him cannot be understated.) He also had a long term “work husband” by the name of Chuck Thornton with whom Patrick road-dogged across the country to tell the stories of many while eating the garbage of few (when it comes to food, they’re kind of alley cats). Join in as Patrick and Chuck reminisce about their days as collaborators while Ross asks some hard hitting questions and calls them nerds.

Ep. 056 – Who cares about sluts in paradise??

August 12, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, bachelor in paradise, bachelor nation, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, Gender, Love, Marriage, monogamy, nonmonogamy, Sex, the bachelor, the ethical slutPatrick Holbert

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Ross and Patrick’s main junk food TV show obsession is The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise and its trash spawn, Bachelor in Paradise. The entire Bachelor brand is based on the myths we were all sold about love and relationships during our Disney-enhanced childhoods. On this episode, the Who Cares hosts discuss the first episode of Bachelor In Paradise, the drama that ensued, and how little do all these hormone-hyped contestants know, they’re all in open relationships and navigating them terribly. With a dog-eared copy of The Ethical Slut in hand, Ross and Patrick read some wise words from this revolutionary polyamory bible to discuss all the mistakes and missteps happening in Paradise.

Ep. 055 – Who cares about Lindsay Goldwert??

August 5, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, author, BDSM, books, brooklyn, cfnm, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, ethical non-monogamy, kink, Love, Marriage, new york city, non-fiction, nyc, Relationships, SexPatrick Holbert

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Lindsay Goldwert is a journalist, podcaster, comedian, author, and all around fascinating human. She joins Ross and Patrick to discuss the exciting release of her first book, Bow Down: Lessons From Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want. Listen as they dive into the taboo territories of sex and money and how empathy and empowerment are not mutually exclusive. Lindsay shares about the alpha females featured in her book and the incredible power of example Dominatrixes can be to women in all walks of life, not just the bedroom. So strap in and strap on because BDSM is a contact sport where you can learn a lot about yourself. Just be open to it, ok?

Ep. 054 – Who cares about healing after breakups??

July 29, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, breakups, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, Fashion, feminism, gay beach, Gender, jacob riis, life, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, nyc, podcast, Sex, sober, summer, therapy, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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He’s our (self-proclaimed) #1 fan and newly appointed President of the Who Cares Fan Club. This week we welcome back Bro of the show Dave Martineau! He’s 31, he’s single, he’s in therapy, and he’s uncomfortable with his sister’s openness. Dave traveled to NYC for the weekend to bro down with his sis by going to karaoke, the beach, and watching a healthy dose of Xanax television (The Office). He regales Patrick and Ross with insane tales of online dating, and his plans to rescue dogs from negligent women via dating apps. Pop in your head phones, turn up the volume, and get your tinnitus pumping while your hosts give unsolicited advice to their numero uno.

Ep. 053 – Who cares about dating while married??

July 22, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, Comedy, couples, death, Drag, Drugs, Gender, homosexuality, life, Marriage, mental health, podcast, Sex, sober, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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Did you know there’s a sex-positive dating app for singles and couples? Well there is and Ross and Patrick have done lots of swiping left and right. In this episode, they talk about digital dating while married and how doing so after 7 years of monogamy is fuckin’ scary! Couples therapy has saved R and P more than once and transparency and negotiation are the keys to their open relationship. This one is so fun they sing a song about a herpes infected eagle! You’re definitely gonna want to add it to your Spotify playlist.