Tag Archives: Consent

Ep. 061 – Who cares about weddings, reunions, and feelings??

September 23, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drugs, Fashion, Gender, homosexuality, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, polyamory, wellness, yogaPatrick Holbert

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Ross, Patrick, and Peggy went upstate for a family wedding and Patrick’s 20 year high school reunion. Everyone came away from the weekend feeling emotionally hungover from the bittersweet highs and the stress-induced lows. Ross and Patrick balanced having a good time with their respective brands of generalized anxiety while Peggy exhausted herself from love, attention, and gnawing through her crate cover. What they thought would be a fun recap of the weekend turned into a much deeper conversation about love, partnership, and showing up for each other. Don’t you want to hear Ross and Patrick process their feelings more? We knew it!

Ep. 059 – Who cares about The Great Outdoors??

September 9, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, camping, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, ethical non-monogamy, Fashion, Gender, Love, Marriage, mental health, millenials, new york city, podcast, polyamory, relationship goals, RelationshipsPatrick Holbert

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Did you miss Ross and Patrick last week? They felt terrible that they didn’t record an episode for you. (Just tell them you missed them. They’re very sensitive and crave validation). Have no fear, they’re back and they recorded while driving upstate because vehicular multitasking is worth it for their fans. It’s you all who keep this empire running. The fans and Jesus. Mostly Jesus actually (Is anyone else watching ‘The Family’ on Netflix??). Anyway on this episode, R and P talk camping, 12 step programs, cults, and up tight neighbors. Cool, right?

Ep. 058 – Who cares about Billy Procida??

August 26, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, UncategorizedAlcoholism, BDSM, brooklyn, Consent, couples, dating, domination, Drugs, Gender, homosexuality, Love, Marriage, mental health, nyc, podcast, polyamory, Rape Culture, Religion, Sex, sex positive, sex positivity, Sexual misconduct, standup, standup comedy, therapy, trans, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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Billy Procida, the “Manwhore” himself, is in the Who Cares podcast studio! He talks to Ross and Patrick about standup, podcasting, sex work, and turning his sex positive slut lifestyle into a career. Billy claims to be extremely problematic but Ross only found minor problems here and there. Overall, this threesome had a lovely in depth conversation about relationships, sex, and societal closed mindedness. The trio also decided they’re doing the lord’s work and that the world needs more whores out in the open, especially in this political climate. So tie yourself up, grab your vibrator and have a listen to Billy Procida!

Check out Billy’s show, “The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex-Positive Quest” here!

Ep. 056 – Who cares about sluts in paradise??

August 12, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, bachelor in paradise, bachelor nation, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, Gender, Love, Marriage, monogamy, nonmonogamy, Sex, the bachelor, the ethical slutPatrick Holbert

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Ross and Patrick’s main junk food TV show obsession is The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise and its trash spawn, Bachelor in Paradise. The entire Bachelor brand is based on the myths we were all sold about love and relationships during our Disney-enhanced childhoods. On this episode, the Who Cares hosts discuss the first episode of Bachelor In Paradise, the drama that ensued, and how little do all these hormone-hyped contestants know, they’re all in open relationships and navigating them terribly. With a dog-eared copy of The Ethical Slut in hand, Ross and Patrick read some wise words from this revolutionary polyamory bible to discuss all the mistakes and missteps happening in Paradise.

Ep. 055 – Who cares about Lindsay Goldwert??

August 5, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, author, BDSM, books, brooklyn, cfnm, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, ethical non-monogamy, kink, Love, Marriage, new york city, non-fiction, nyc, Relationships, SexPatrick Holbert

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Lindsay Goldwert is a journalist, podcaster, comedian, author, and all around fascinating human. She joins Ross and Patrick to discuss the exciting release of her first book, Bow Down: Lessons From Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want. Listen as they dive into the taboo territories of sex and money and how empathy and empowerment are not mutually exclusive. Lindsay shares about the alpha females featured in her book and the incredible power of example Dominatrixes can be to women in all walks of life, not just the bedroom. So strap in and strap on because BDSM is a contact sport where you can learn a lot about yourself. Just be open to it, ok?

Ep. 054 – Who cares about healing after breakups??

July 29, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, breakups, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, Fashion, feminism, gay beach, Gender, jacob riis, life, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, nyc, podcast, Sex, sober, summer, therapy, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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He’s our (self-proclaimed) #1 fan and newly appointed President of the Who Cares Fan Club. This week we welcome back Bro of the show Dave Martineau! He’s 31, he’s single, he’s in therapy, and he’s uncomfortable with his sister’s openness. Dave traveled to NYC for the weekend to bro down with his sis by going to karaoke, the beach, and watching a healthy dose of Xanax television (The Office). He regales Patrick and Ross with insane tales of online dating, and his plans to rescue dogs from negligent women via dating apps. Pop in your head phones, turn up the volume, and get your tinnitus pumping while your hosts give unsolicited advice to their numero uno.

Ep. 050 – Who cares about open relationships??

July 1, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12 steps, brooklyn, cheating, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, ethical non-monogamy, Gender, lies, Love, Marriage, modern love, polyamory, pride, recovery, romance, secrecy, Sex, SobrietyPatrick Holbert

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It’s episode 50!! Can you believe it?? It only took this duo 50 episodes to decide what they really care about (or at least what they actually want to talk about): Sex, love, alternative relationships, and everything in between! This week Ross and Patrick reveal more about their foray into ethical non-monogamy and their plans for sexual world domination (Kidding! They only wanna start a sex cult. Or maybe a commune). Does all this sound scary and confusing and like too much information? Then maybe sit this one out. Or does it sound captivating and titillating and like you’ve always had questions about things like this? Then dive into the warm poly embrace of this week’s show. XOXO!

Ep. 048 – Who cares about episode 48??

June 17, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, UncategorizedAlcoholism, brooklyn, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, Drag, Drugs, Fashion, feminism, Gender, homosexuality, life, Love, Marriage, mental health, nyc, open marriage, podcast, politics, polyamory, Reality TV, recovery, Relationships, sexual health, Sexual misconduct, Sobriety, standup, standup comedy, STI's, Substance Abuse, the bachelorPatrick Holbert

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This week Patrick and Ross and their third co-host and dog, Peggy, drive southbound on I-95 and talk about all sorts of things. (Well truthfully, Patrick and Ross do most of the talking while Peggy naps in a donut formation in the back seat). Take a listen as The Family Holbertineau mourns the passing of their dear Aunt Sue, discuss father’s day, and share their gratitude for the kind feedback about last week’s bombshell episode from supportive listeners. Get Pegged ya’ll!

Ep. 047 – Who cares about STI’s??

June 10, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorized12steps, Alcoholism, brooklyn, Consent, couples, dating, Drugs, Feeld, fetish, Gender, herpes, homosexuality, hpv, kink, life, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, open marriage, orgy, podcast, poly, polyamory, Rape, Sexual harrasment, sexual health, Sexual misconduct, sexually transmitted infections, sober, Sobriety, standup, standup comedy, STD's, STI's, swingers, Tinder, wellness, yogaPatrick Holbert

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On their most revealing episode yet, Ross & Patrick discuss STI’s, non-monogamy, and sex in general. If you thought it was impossible for them to be even more transparent, take a listen as Ross shouts her truth from the rooftop while Patrick skittishly divulges his. With this podcast, they hope that by opening up more, they can promote more positive conversation around sexual health and relationships. Open your mind (and maybe your legs) to this week’s show!

Ep. 046 – Who cares about Peggy??

June 3, 2019Comedy, Marriage, Pop Culture, Sex, Travel, Uncategorizedcanine, Comedy, Consent, couples, dating, death, dogs, Drag, Love, Marriage, mental health, new york city, pets, Relationships, wellnessPatrick Holbert

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Well last week they were being voyeurs at the dog park and now their sitting IN the dog park. Ross’ dreams finally came true… she wore Patrick down and got them a dog!!! Welcome Peggy, the adorable mutt to the Holbertineau family. Peggy came into their life as a foster from In Our Hands Rescue and she’s staying in their lives as their doghter. Ross and Patrick talk about how becoming dog owners has already begun to change their lives for the better and the unexpected. Peggy is a precious little girl who makes people smile wherever she goes. What were they supposed to do, not adopt a living breathing stuffed animal?! What are you, insane???